Dating tips?

January 5, 2012 by  
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dating tips
by State Records NSW

Question by DG: Dating tips?
What dating tips would you recommend to a woman going back to the single scene after 15 years of marriage????

Best answer:

Answer by saberahul
If you are dating with the idea of finding a life partner- you are going to get nowhere
try to date for fun and things will automatically work out

What do you think? Answer below!


4 Responses to “Dating tips?”
  1. Steve C says:

    Take it slow. Also, work on the emotional baggage. This was the hardest thing for me (being married for 10 years myself). You want to compare them to your ex but they’re not them!

  2. Slim Jim says:

    Take night classes at a local college – something fun like computers or photography – or they have some classes that do activities – hiking….. bowling league?
    Start hanging with people that like to do what you like – and enjoy – relax and try to have fun – the rest will take care of itself…

  3. TK says:

    Relax and be yourself. You don’t have to get re-married, at least not on the next date, so there is no need to be anxious about him or whether it’s going to lead to anything more than a friendship.

    In my opinion, there is nothing worse than re-hashing the story of your life, or listening to his, on the first date. Find things to talk about that you will tell you a little bit about him than just what his answers provide. In other words, is he intelligent, thoughtful, funny, ironic, sarcastic, bitter, self-motivated, et cetera. What are his interests and activities and how do they compare with yours? What is his work like and what does it tell you about him?

    If you come off as too available or too needy or too willing to share personal information or too anything other than funny, then you run the risk of scaring off any normal guy. Once again that’s merely my opinion.

    Good luck. Keep your chin up, keep reminding yourself that you are terrific, and take nothing personally. Remember you are dealing with the sub-primate group known as “guys,” so keep your expectations low and you may be pleasantly surprised some day eons from now.

  4. pd♥ says:

    Wow, I’m really sorry about that hun.

    Take things slow. 15 years of marriage or even ANY long relationship can be very hard to get over. You become used to having someone there, and that can turn into a problem. You can get caught up way too fast and become attached more because you are used to someone being around, rather than because it’s real. So make sure and take things slow and don’t rush ANYTHING.
    Have fun with life, and be yourself. Give yourself time to heal completely. That’s a KEY thing. Healing. In relationships, you never want to open a door without closing one first.

    With relationships it’s important to learn from them, but don’t harp on the negative. Learn, then move on and be happy.

    Staying in the past will only hold you back. You can never move forward if you stay in the past.

    Best of luck my dear. I hope all goes well for you.

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